We’re hoping to spend 99 percent of our time outside, hiking with Chase and Sadie (wish us luck because we bought a new hiking backpack to try) and playing in the pool and lake near our townhouse rental. I’ll be sure to share a recap of our first vacation away as a family of four (Sadie always counts!) on Monday.
Until then, I wanted to stop by to share my weekly Things I’m Loving Friday blog post with you guys and, as always, encourage you to participate in the fun by sharing a little bit about what is making you smile in the comments section of this post!
Have a great weekend!
Things I’m Loving Friday
A recap of Alyssa and Brittany’s visit last weekend never made it on the blog earlier this week, but it was so nice to have friends in town when Ryan and I were in serious need of a good distraction last weekend. Alyssa and Brittany arrived in town on Friday night and we filled the weekend with time on the lake and lots of yummy food and drinks (Brittany made a s’mores dip that was amazing and her strawberry frosé was the perfect summertime beverage). I’m grateful for the internet for bringing these two wonderful women into my life and we had a blast getting to know their guys better, too! We’re already talking about planning another visit soon! Thanks for making the drive to Charlotte, Brittany and Alyssa!
There’s something special about nut butter you discover at a local farmer’s market and I can absolutely see why Brittany and Alyssa fell in love with Reginald’s Nut Butter at their local Richmond farmer’s market. It’s made with delicious roasted Virginia peanuts, a dash of oil and, depending on the unique flavor, a small handful of other natural ingredients. Brittany and Alyssa brought me their two favorite flavors – Nana Honey Peanut Butter and Wedding Pretzel Crunch – and I can absolutely see why Reginald’s is a staple in their houses. I’ve mostly just been eating it straight out of the jar (still my favorite way to enjoy peanut butter), but it was also amazing drizzled on top of a hot bowl of oats for breakfast yesterday. Yum!
Is it just me or are people completely brow obsessed these days? What is it with eyebrows right now!? Truthfully, I’ve never really given my brows much thought and apparently it shows because I had someone send me a message on Snapchat recommending that I fill in my brows a bit since they are so light. It’s something that’s been on my radar for a while now but eyebrow pencils scare me and after a bad experience with a makeup artist years ago, I was super weary of overly bold eyebrows.
As fate would have it, I ended up stumbling upon an eyebrow station at Ulta a few weeks ago and took some time to experiment with a few different products. I ended up walking away Benefit’s Ka-Brow! Cream Gel Eyebrow Color. The brush allows for buildable color which is perfect for me since I can lightly layer it on until my brows start to appear more defined (and not too crazy-bold!) and fill in some of the splotchy parts of my brows. It has awesome reviews on Ulta.com and I’ve been very happy with this random find!
Last month, when I got my hair done, at the end of my appointment, my hairstylist rubbed a bit of Moroccan oil on the ends of my hair. Now that I’ve started coloring my hair, I cannot help but ask a million questions about hair care since I know coloring can damage the hair and I want to keep my hair as healthy as possible. When I asked about the benefits of Moroccan oil, my hair stylist explained that it’s great for conditioning the hair, decreasing breakage and adding shine without residue.
Years ago, during a Fitness Magazine event, I received a sample of Moroccan oil and used it for a little while before I completely forgot about it. Thankfully, my latest experience at the hair salon reminded me of my old bottle and I found it in the back of a drawer in my bathroom. I’ve been applying it to my hair (avoiding the roots) before bed and love the way my hair soaks it up overnight so it doesn’t look greasy in the morning. Anything to keep my hair healthy!
- The Honest Company Overnight Diapers
I’m sure you guys know by now that I am a big fan of The Honest Company’s diapers. I’ve been subscribing to their diaper bundles for months (<—a great way to save money if you’re also a fan of their diapers!) and recently added a pack of overnight diapers to my order. They are wonderful!! Even when Chase wakes up to nurse in the middle of the night, I try not to change him (unless, on the off chance, there is a number two in there…) and the overnight diapers definitely seem to hold more in and keep Chase dryer for longer. Plus, the sleepy sheep print is too darn cute! The overnight diapers are now a bedtime staple in our house!
- Constructive Feedback and Some Final Thoughts
This week I received some similar comments from a handful of blog readers who were frustrated with the vague way I approached sharing our stress surrounding Chase’s blood work on the blog. I have thought a lot about these comments and I completely understand where they are coming from and wanted to address these concerns here this morning.
One blog reader left the following comment on Wednesday’s blog post:
“I hope you will elaborate on the story more soon, as I feel your vagueness is allowing readers to form their own opinions that this isn’t that serious. I don’t think that was your intent, but that is the way it is coming off. This seemed like more of a scare and pale in comparison to what other parents may be going through. Again, because of the vagueness. My advice as a reader is full transparency or none at all.”
Truthfully, I think her comment sums up the way a handful of you may feel right now and so I wanted to share my response to her constructive feedback with you below. I am always, always learning and know that I make a billion mistakes as a blogger but I appreciate those of you who left constructive feedback and want you to know I take it to heart.
My response:
“Thank you for your feedback. I can understand where you are coming from and apologize if my vagueness is upsetting to you and others. As a blogger, I sometimes struggle with what to share and what not to share in such a public space. At the time I initially shared what we were going through, I had no idea what the end results from Chase’s blood work would be. I hoped and prayed and believed they would be good, but I didn’t know. And I was scared.
As I briefly mentioned before, the follow up blood work we had done was not directly related to Chase’s small size but something more serious that truly frightened me and my family. When a mother hears the words ‘bone disease’ mentioned by her child’s doctor it is hard not to worry, cry and feel helpless. I didn’t feel comfortable not mentioning my worries on the blog and pretending like things were happy and fine when the past week has been filled with a lot of stress and uncertainty while we waited for results from his follow up blood work.
I realize that receiving good news now may make this whole ordeal seem small, but when I shared what we were going through, I didn’t know what the results were going to be and I was scared and unsure how to handle everything. We are feeling optimistic, but still have some follow up testing in our future. I am believing all will be okay.
In retrospect, maybe I should’ve kept this off the blog altogether. It was a struggle for me because not mentioning something that directly impacts the biggest thing in my life – my son – felt fake, inauthentic and disingenuous. I didn’t know how to handle it and maybe I didn’t handle it well, but I hope you can understand where I’m coming from and that it was not at ALL my intent to make others feel bad or bring about comparisons to other family’s health concerns. I think you’re right about full transparency or none at all in the future. It’s something I spoke at length with Ryan about yesterday and I know that in the future, I will likely keep things like this to myself. Thank you for reading and for your feedback. I truly appreciate it.”
I am sharing my response with you today because while I think sharing highs and lows on this blog is important, I know that some things truly are better off discussed outside of such a public space. I now know my son’s health is one of these things.
Your comments are not dissuading me from being authentic in this space but there are certain things that affect me and my family that I am learning should not be shared so openly. I apologize to those who were upset by the way I handled everything and, more importantly, I apologize to those facing health scares within their families who were upset by my posts. I truly, truly wish only the very best for all of you.
- Friday Flashbacks
10 Make Ahead Breakfast Recipes (A roundup of 10 of my favorite breakfast recipes that can easily be prepped ahead of time.)
Total Body Pyramid Workout (Begin by completing 20 reps of the five exercises listed in the 20 reps section before moving onto 40 reps of the four exercises in the 40 reps section and 60 reps of the final three exercises in the 60 reps section. Then go back down the pyramid and complete the 60, 40 and 20 rep sections in reverse order.)
- Around the Web
Food: Spinach Banana Muffins // Healthy Mexican Shrimp Salad // Watermelon Rosemary Popsicles
Fitness: 12 Minute Tabata Workout // Do What Made You Happy As A Kid // Yoga Flow for Digestive Health and Relaxation
Question of the Day
- What is one thing you are loving this week?
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I’ve been reading your blog for years but have never commented. I read it because of the honesty in which you share things with us, whether it be the ups or the downs and I’m sorry to hear that someone was upset with the amount you decided to share. Your blog is one of the first I open in the morning and I love the mix of everyday life, fitness and fun you share.
I know that a lot of these comments have similar thoughts to it, but I hope that with so many of us responding about enjoying the content you share that you will continue to do so.
Hey Julie, I’ve been reading since about 2011, and I’ve rarely (maybe never) commented. This post made me feel the need to pipe up, though. While I can understand where the reader is coming from in the comment you shared, I have to disagree with her. Someone will always be able to find a way to be offended by what you say or even what you don’t say. This is your blog, your son, your family, and your choice to share what you decide is comfortable. If folks are offended, that’s their deal. If someone is even more upset because the test results were good and your family is NOT, in fact, facing a health crisis…well, that speaks really poorly of that person’s character. Frankly, I don’t understand why anyone would be anything other than happy and excited for you and your family given that the test results were good!
Believing with you that everything will continue to be ok for your little man. <3
Hi Julie, I just wanted you to know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being vague about the details of your personal life. Like others have said, this is YOUR blog and what you choose to share or not share is strictly up to you. I went through some tough times during my pregnancy and I only shared it with a few close people. You never really know what someone’s going through so it’s really unfair for anyone to be upset with you. However, as a new mom, it seems like dealing with comparison is what moms experience a lot. Hang in there and please know that you have readers that support you and respect what you choose to share with us. 🙂
Julie,
I have read your blog for years but I very rarely comment. I decided to comment today because I felt I could offer a bit of insight from the reader’s perspective. I haven’t gotten a chance to read over the other comments on this blog entry so the following very well could have been mentioned.
You have every right to post about anything you want or omit something from this blog.. I can’t speak for anyone but myself, however when you open up and discuss you and your family’s struggles, I feel more connected to you as an individual and as a fellow woman. I don’t wish for you to feel any pressure to leave certain details about your personal life off the blog for fear of what others will think or say. Every one handles worry and copes in different ways.
I do think that vague-blogging could have been avoided in this instance simply by providing more details. It would not have taken anything away from your initial post to explain, “I took Chase for blood work earlier this week and some of the lab results came back abnormal. The doctor was concerned that some of the levels may have been indicative of a particular type of bone disease but we won’t know one way or the other until X date. In the meantime, please send good vibes Chase’s direction for a positive outcome.” This would sufficiently tell your readers what it is that you are dealing with and prevent them from taking their own guesses. Additionally, on your follow up post I would have liked to see an explanation for why Chase needs further testing. Is he not in the clear after all? Tell us when he’s going back for his follow up appointment and tell us what the results are. We only hope for the best for the little guy.
All of what I’ve typed above would allow readers to feel closer to you and to and not get that vague-blogger sense. Please don’t stop posting personal details. You don’t want to lose the uniqueness of your blog. Instead just be more specific and transparent.
I’m so sorry, Julie. I can sorta understand where your other readers are coming from, but there can’t be anything less fun that dealing with unintended drama during a personally stressful and upsetting time in your life. Enjoy your weekend away! Relish every moment with your little family!
oh Julie, please know this is YOUR blog and there really are no rules!! I am so glad that you shared with your readers. I follow a few bloggers and a few of them always post only positives, no struggles whatsoever. And sometimes I fall into that trap where I think, “See, that person’s life is perfect and we are struggling so much in so many different areas.” I thought you were so brave to share what you were going through and to show that not every week is a great week. I also think having so many people praying for the health of anyone in your family is a positive! I hope you will continue to share with us in the future – we all understand the ups and downs of life and it is nice not only to get support sometimes but to be able to give it as well! Hugs!!
Julie – I’m another long time reader behind the scenes, and wanted to applaud you for your graceful response to what I’m sure was a heartwrenching situation!
Moroccan oil is awesome. Great for your hair you cuticles, just about everything. This brand also makes a great shampoo and conditioner.
Hi! Another long time reader/rare commenter here. 🙂 I agree with what most people are posting on here. It’s your blog and your family. Don’t let people try to make you feel bad for what you feel you need to do. I’m a mom and my 4-year-old has seizures, so I know and understand the fear of the unknown and the what-ifs. Any time our babies have a health scare of any kind it’s traumatic for us. We want everything to be perfect for our babies and when things are out of our control, it scares us so bad! Don’t let the idea that others have it worse than you lessen your feelings about your son’s situation. Your feelings are very real and don’t feel bad about being scared over this situation! It’s completely normal!! I pray that all the future test results come back okay and that everything is fine for you and your family! Sending loves and virtual hugs your way…from one mom to another. 🙂
Hi Julie – Agree with some of the others; I never comment, so this feels weird. But, it has driven me crazy for days that someone was offended by your worry because they deemed your situation “minor.” The word is “empathy.” There’s no reason for your to censor yourself for fear that someone else has had it worse.
I lost my brother completely unexpectedly a few years back, but that doesn’t mean I can’t feel sorry for someone if their dog passes away. Both can be a tremendous loss. If I can’t be empathetic for someone else, then I’ve become a horribly selfish, sad person.
All the best to you and your family (and anyone else going through something hard)!
I think the posts about what you went through were exactly what its like having a health scare and especially a health scare for Chase. I appreciate your honesty and it made me feel like I am not the only person. When I was pregnant I had two scary scenarios where my baby girl might have been born premature, both times I had to go for extra testing and (thankfully!) both times results came back normal (and she stuck in there until 42 weeks!). That doesn’t mean I walked around pretending like everything was ok until I had the tests, I talked about it to my friends, family and some close coworkers because it was scary and I just wanted people to know that things were not ok at that moment. These scares are part of being a mum (or dad or guardian) and I appreciate you sharing it through all the steps and not with a filter after the fact.
Oh my goodness, I MUST get my hands on this peanut butter! I live in Alexandria, VA (so close to Richmond!!). I wonder if I could find it anywhere around here? Do you know?!
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Jumping on the train with pretty much all the others here: I’ve been reading faithfully for a little over 5 years. It’s your blog and you do you. Share as much or as little as you want. Your honesty about the highs and lows of the everyday life are inspiring. Your blog is what you make it to be and however you choose to define it, I’ll be sure to check in almost daily to see what’s about in Julie’s corner of the world.
Hi Julie-
I have never left a comment before, but read your blog faithfully every day. I so look forward to it showing up in my inbox. It made me so sad to see that people were actually angry or frustrated with the way you handled Chase’s health scare. It is unbelievable that someone might say that your situation didn’t deserve the emotions you were feeling. Regardless of how big or small the situation is, you are entitled to your feelings. While others might have wanted to know exactly what was going on with Chase, this is YOUR blog and you decide what to share. I sincerely hope that all of the future bloodwork comes back normal. Enjoy your weekend away!
I couldn’t agree more!
First, I didn’t comment earlier this week, but I’m so happy to hear about Chase. I was thinking positive thoughts for your family and am so glad.
And I completely agree with Leslie’s comment. This is your life. We choose to read along, but you get to decide what you share and what you don’t. Some people don’t understand that. I’m sorry that you got comments along those lines.
For what it’s worth, I think it’s admirable you shared that you were terrified. I’m sure there are other parents dealing with more terrifying things. That’s true 99.9% of the time – someone, somewhere in the world could be experiencing worse things than you. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t share your story (however much or little) if you want to. It doesn’t make what’s going on in your family’s life less terrifying or diminish the importance or severity of the terrifying thing. It doesn’t make you sharing insensitive towards others or wrong in any way…and it’s kind of crazy anyone would suggest that, because how could you ever know what’s going on in all of your readers’ lives?
I get why you shared the news with us that you did, why you were hesitant to share too much, why you wrote back to that reader what you did and why you wanted to share that response on today’s post. I understand what it’s like to have a medical professional utter words that paralyze you with fear, then the waiting period while tests come back. Not everyone has experienced that firsthand and understands the indescribable fear. If you felt like you wanted to share it, good for you. If you decide next time (God willing there won’t be a next time) that you don’t want to share it, good for you.
I know you love your readers. We love you too. I hope the comments of a select few don’t make you feel regret or any other negative emotions. I’ve loved reading your blog since 2011. You keep me motivated to stay healthy, you speak to my love of animals, and you have offered so much help; your pre- and post-pregnancy posts are ones I share with expectant friends and new moms, your food posts have given me new meal ideas (shout out to fried egg bowls – thank you!), and your long-term relationship is similar to my spouse’s and mine, so I like being able to relate.
Thank you for sharing what you have of your life so far. You’re under no obligation to us readers and if one day you decide to pull back or stop altogether, remember that the majority of us have appreciated you taking us along for the ride.
Have a wonderful vacation with your lovely, healthy family.
Hi Julie! I have been a faithful reader for many years, as well. I look forward to reading about your favorites, new recipes, workouts, etc. every week!
Health concerns for your baby are terrifying, no matter the circumstance. I don’t understand all the incredibly critical people in this world. Hopefully all of the kind, encouraging voices can drown them out!
Best wishes to you and your sweet family.
I read your blog everyday when it hits my inbox. But I never comment. I just don’t normally do, unless I’m super compelled by something. And I can’t believe anyone would be upset by what and how you shared Chase’s health concerns this week. How much you share, the depth of it, the scope of it, is your call. You don’t have to give every detail, and you don’t have to blog under the pretense that everything is always sunny. Life isn’t always sunny. And you’re emotions, and your feelings are yours. No one can make a judgement call on how you express those. I think people forget that as a blogger, you’re still a real person, with real emotions, and real trials you navigate through life just like the rest of us. I’m still keeping you and your family in my prayers. As for the blog, you do you, and what you feel comfortable with. It’s your blog, your life, your voice and your emotions. And that’s why we read it anyways! Blessings and enjoy your vacation.
Sorry to comment twice! I can’t stop thinking about this! I can’t help but feel very defensive when people say that one person’s anxiety/concern/experience/loss “isn’t as important” as someone elses. I love what another reader wrote about empathy – YES. I have always been one who has extreme empathy for others. But in my life, while someone may say I am so “lucky” that the worst pain I have ever experienced has been heartbreak, I must say it is difficult to experience that loss (which has impacted me for over 10 years) while some people would think it is trivial or that I’m not allowed to feel the way that I do. I felt the same way when I had a miscarriage, like I wasn’t allowed to feel as horribly as I did because other people are dealing with much more devastating experiences. Yet my breakup, and my miscarriage, were devastating and both impact me to this day. I feel bad for anyone who is in pain for any reason. And I know what it’s like to be waiting for potentially devastating test results for a baby that you love. It is absolutely terrifying. No one has any right to judge anyone else about what they are going through and how they handle the stress, anxiety, and unknown. I appreciate you sharing your struggles with us.
I’m glad Chase is doing well! You should be able to share as much or as little as you’d like in this space. Your story is your story, and you don’t need permission from anyone on how you choose to share. I understand wanting to be sensitive to others’ situations, but your comments weren’t a reflection on their stories – they were a reflection of the genuine fear you were feeling in those moments. I hope this doesn’t dissuade you from feeling like you can share openly and honestly about what is going on in your life! That is one of my favorite parts of your blog.
I’ve been reading your blog for quite a while and don’t think I’ve ever commented…UNTIL TODAY: no one is forced to read anyone’s blog. A blog belongs to the BLOGGER–he or she is free to share whatever he or she desires. We as readers are free to take it or leave it, but NOT free to CRITICIZE, in my opinion. After reading last Friday’s post from you, I prayed for you all weekend; and I was both nervous yet excited to see Monday’s post to find out if everything turned out ok. And I am so glad the test results were positive (praying that all future tests remain that way as well). YOU DO YOU…I’ve enjoyed reading every single one of your posts–funny, happy, sad, scared, whatever. I don’t feel you even needed to grace that rather negative comment with a response; yet you did, and nicely. Kudos to you…you’re a better woman than me!! 😉
Amen to that!
First, Moroccan Oil feels like such a throw back! I remember it being a huge deal a few years ago.
Second, I’m probably just echoing what others have said but I wanted to throw a little more support your way. I didn’t see anything wrong with the way you shared what was going on. It’s your blog and you should share however you want. And just for the record, I find that comment you received to be a little ridiculous. You couldn’t have known what the outcome would be and thank goodness it wasn’t something more serious! When I read your post, I just assumed it was (obviously) weighing on you heavily and you weren’t ready to share everything. Nothing wrong with that and it seems the majority of your readers agree.
Julie… You handled everything just fine. This is your blog and your life and you do what you feel in your heart. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. The glimpse of your beautiful life with your family that you share with us just wonderful the way it is. I for one appreciate the way you handled things. It showed that every family goes through trials and tribulations. We are all human. You probably touched the l Es of someone going through a hard time and brought them comfort knowing that there are others too who are suffering. You were just fine!
Lots of hugs to chase!
Hi Julie! As always, I think you handled those comments like a class act. As an avid blog reader (and a blogger myself!) I consider it a privilege to be able to read details about a stranger’s life, and completely accept whatever level of disclosure the blogger is comfortable with. Whatever you choose to share/not to share is completely up to you, in short, and I’ll stand by you no matter where your posts fall on that spectrum! Thanks for continuing to write posts I look forward to reading, and enjoy your vacation! 🙂
Totally agree with you Holly; it is a privilege to read the details of a stranger’s life. Especially when it can’t be easy for the person to share them.
I have never commented on your blog, but I look forward to it daily. People are always going to find fault in others delivery regarding sensitive subjects. I feel in a sense I know you, and you are an upbeat and genuine person. While that reader may have given you their point of view, I though what you shared was handled very gracefully. This is a blog about you and your life. There is no right or wrong when it comes to you feelings. I hope you don’t hold back from the blog. People truly care about you, your family and your life. You truly are a bright spot in my day!
Agreeing with so many others here, but I hope you’ll truly hear the majority of us when we say that this is your blog, your space, your decision. And I agree with what others have said about how you are allowed to feel (and share) what you feel and shouldn’t have to act like you are happy all the time. Any sort of difficulty–health scare, medical issue, emotional struggles, life events–can bring confusing and upsetting emotions, especially during the unknown, and you are entitled to process those feelings however you see fit. Maybe it helped someone reading to see that you were struggling with something, too, and it helped them process their own struggle. You did nothing wrong. While some are blessed with “lesser” problems in life than others, there are no perfect lives, and we each feel things our own way. Your son is your whole world, and you are allowed to share your concerns about him!
I’m not a regular commentor but I feel compelled to comment today. I too am dealing with a health concern with my baby and I absolutely can identify with how you’ve been feeling. My child tested positive for a scary genetic condition at birth (but other factors can also impact the blood work so it doesn’t necessarily mean she has this condition). Just hearing that she could possibly have this condition freaked me out. I know the stress & worry you’ve been feeling & it’s awful. We have had to have blood work done, urinalysis, meet with a specialist, wait on results, etc. The specialist thinks my daughter is fine but we won’t know for sure without further testing. No one knows the fear without being in your shoes. I hope that when all this is said and done for your family (when Chase is found to be completely healthy) that you will share some more because there could be other people out there scared to death that their child to has some condition & could come across the blog and hear a happy ending story to give them hope. Best of luck to your family.
You owe us no explanation and no apology. Yes, we all feel invested in your life because we read your blog. It’s weird how that works and you feel more like a long distance pen pal or something. But, that gives us NO right to demand any explanation for you or force details from you that you don’t feel comfortable sharing. In a moment where you felt scared and out of control, you reached out for support. Totally not your responsibility for how people interpret what you said. I feel like you always go out of your way to be respectful and tactful and would never purposely offend someone. I am not one to believe that prayer changes outcomes. I do belive in the power of prayer but I think it’s changes you and that God will provide you with strength and support to handle whatever the situation may be. ❤️
You are a real class act, Julie! Rather than burying the negativity you respond. And you respond classy with a sincere, thoughtful statement. Sometimes, we all just need to vent and that is what you did. I’m so glad to hear Chase is well and hope it all co tiniest to be well in the future.
HI Julie! I’m a long time reader but infrequent commenter. I am like you; when people give me criticism, I take it to heart and try my best to reflect on it and see another perspective. Try not to dwell on it! You’ve addressed it and now you can let it go! I personally do not see any problem with the way you addressed things on the blog and I absolutely disagree with the notion that what you wrote might have been insensitive to someone else’s struggles. The fact that Chase is OK does not invalidate the emotions you felt when you were in the dark. Your post last week totally resonated with me. Last year, I went through some very scary unknowns when I started having unusual migraines. After a brain scan, a neurologist told me that I might have a serious degenerative neurological disorder. It was TERRIFYING. The worst part was that I had to wait an entire year to re-scan. Basically, they had to check to see if anything had changed, so I experienced an entire year of being in the dark. I experienced panic attacks and a lot of emotional ups and downs during that time. Words cannot express how thankful and relieved I was to be declared A-OK in December. Through both the unknown and the results it was very hard for other people to understand what I was going through, and it was hard to gauge how much to share with friends and others so I mostly kept it to myself. Sometimes people don’t know how to react or they feel some sort of emotional response to your actions that doesn’t have anything to do with you. Unfortunately you can’t control everyone’s response. It’s perfectly acceptable and perfectly normal to share you fears and anxieties with others and celebrate when you are relieved. I understand your reasons for not fully sharing what was going on with the whole Blogosphere, and you should be able to express yourself however you want in your own space.
I was so happy to hear that Chase’s results came back negative and I hope he continues to be healthy and thrive!
OH, Julie, I’m sad that you are feeling any sort of regret for how you shared about Chase. This is YOUR blog. You may share whatever you wish and whatever you wish to not share. You have NO need to apologize for anything. It’s your business. You guys are parents and you know what is best for your family.
Hi! I love your blog and read every day. I think if you want to share stuff even if it might be scary for some, you should. It is your blog first of all, but someone else who is going thru the same thing might find comfort to know they’re not alone. Or they may have gone thru it and can offer good advice. Ultimately you will do what is best for you and your family, but you shouldn’t feel like you have to hold back. If people don’t want to read it or find offense that is on them and they can click away. Don’t ever apologize for your feelings or think you need to feel a certain way. Good luck and my thoughts are with you guys! As a mom of a 15 month old, I completely understand how scary things affecting your child can be and how hard it is to keep it together. 🙂
Snowshoe Mountain isn’t too far from my family! It’s only our 2nd year here, but we moved here for the outdoor life. Cass is close to you, and it’s a fun tourist town with train rides. Hiking is everywhere, and our favorite area not far from Snowshoe is Highland Scenic Highway. Amazing views, and tons of trails with a range of lengths. We haven’t come close to exploring everything, but we love it here!
Hi Julie,
I very rarely comment but I have been reading your blog for 5 years now pretty much every single day. The fact that people hot upset about hoe much or how little you shared is completely rediculous and self centered on their part. We follow your blog because we love you! There is absolutely NO REASON for anyone to get mad or upset at you because they don’t like how much information you CHOOSE to share. It is YOUR blog after all. I wish I could give you a big hug and tell you how amazing you and your blog is. For anyone that thinks otherwise, they are completely off base. I’m so sorry you had to deal with negativity from readers on top of everything else you had going on with Chase this week. From the bottom of my heart, I truly hate you had to deal with that. Shame on those people for being so self centered as to not see your need. I wish you he best of times this weekend. Praying for you and Chase!
Much love,
Blake
Never second guess yourself. Your blog, your choice what to share and how to share it. End of story.
Thank you for sharing what you do <3
I think since it’s your blog you should be able to share whatever you want. I know the fear you went through, I’ve been there with all 3 of my children for various things and some turned out ok and some turned out not ok. Either way, I in no way took offense to anything you said. In fact I feel a camaraderie with you as a mother in that we’re all taking this parenting thing in stride and doing our best… fears and all. Be as vague as you want or as transparent as you want. It’s your blog and you should feel free to share things about your life as you see fit. Also I think it’s amazing you even blogged with that sorta fear hanging over you last week. Way to push through mama. I hope all goes well for Chase! You’re doing an amazing job and I enjoy your blog and your workouts that are kicking my post baby butt haha
Julie — echoing the sentiment above, I wanted to chime in and say that you handled your recent scare well: taking the time you needed for yourself while telling us that something wasn’t quite right. It was a tactful way of letting us in and protecting your family and your privacy at the same time. Then you handled the snide remarks from people who think they have the right to judge with class and dignity. I do hope you continue to be as honest as you’ve been, but as this is your blog it is your decision and we will respect that.
Thank you for sharing your life with us.
Hi Julie…long time reader here – one of the best things about this blog and which has kept me coming back day after day for many years is the fact that you’re real – the good and the bad, the high and the lows. It’s what makes you relatable to the reader; you go through shit too. You handled that comment with absolute class but I have to disagree with the commentor. You can be as vague as you bloody well want. You don’t owe us anything, ESPECIALLY when it comes to family matters. If you don’t feel comfortable disclosing the details of Chase’s health scare, that’s totally fair enough. I know I would be scared, anxious and confused too. It would be hard enough to discuss with friends let alone the world. It doesn’t matter how big or small something is – if people want to draw comparisons that their issue, not yours. I know I would like you to keep sharing your real authentic life with us, including (especially) the lows – but if it makes you uncomfortable then don’t. Do what’s right for you, not us.
Though I am not a parent yet and can’t imagine the scare you went through, I think what and how you shared was fine. In some ways, it can help others who are struggling because everyday is not rainbows even if we want it to be. As others have commented, it’s your blog and you choose what to share. On another note, your response to that person was handled so well and I admire you for that. I have been following your blog for over a year and love all your posts, so whatever you chose to share or not to share, I respect that. I am glad Chase is doing well and hope future tests turn out well too.
Enjoy your vacation and can’t wait to hear about it.
Hi Julie –
A lot of this has been covered in many of the comments so far (great to see so much support!), but I wanted to throw some extra your way as well. You’ve been blogging for so many years now – you have shared so much of your life with your readers and I would absolutely hate to think that you now feel you need to approach your blogging in a different way – or second guess what you’d want to share. I have always enjoyed the more candid moments into your family’s real life. I thought the way you handled sharing Chase’s situation was completely right for you and your family, and I’m disheartened to think other people believe they were “owed” something else. Though, I must add you responded to these readers with such class and grace. Your life is so much different after having Chase, and your blog is obviously going to reflect this. Your writing about these new experiences for the first time and I imagine there’s a lot of learning left to do, but I would hate to see you hung up on “Should I?” or “Shouldn’t I?” Though I’m only one person, you have my support to do *whatever* you want with this blog. I think the decisions you come to personally as a blogger, a mom, a daughter, a sister, a wife – a human being – and whatever decision you and Ryan come to as a family, in regard to what you share and what not to share, will be arrived at after a lot of thoughtful discussion, and I would hope your readers would respect that, always. I certainly do. I’m sorry you had to spend so much time going over this, especially when the experience it relates to was so emotional in the first place, but I hope this weekend away brings you joy, and peace, and memories with your family. And I look forward to reading about all of it.
Best,
A
As a long time blog reader of yours, as well as other blogs, I’ve never felt it necessary for a blogger to share all or nothing when it comes to their personal lives. To me, I figured you would share if/when it made sense. Just because you blog and share your life with the public, doesn’t mean everything in your life is up for grabs. It reminds me of celebrities who are hounded by paparazzi. Yes they are a public figure, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t entitled to privacy! Please don’t feel you need to share everything with us readers, especially things that you aren’t ready to share. I’ll still be a regular reader:) I love your blog and think you do a great job! Enjoy your weekend away…I’m sure you could use the time away as a family after such a stressful time!
Couldn’t agree more with commenters above. Your blog, your space, your family, your stories – readers, however faithful, are not “entitled” to any details other than what you choose to provide. I read the posts about Chase and thought “oh my gosh, I hope all is well!” – the end. It’s not my business to know every detail, though I love and benefit from the information you do choose to share that is related to your son! (I have a 6 month old son 🙂 ) You already are honest and authentic. Share what you want, when you want <3
Love reading this blog daily. You are a an inspiration! Share what you want to but don’t change who you are. I am so happy that things worked out for Chase!
Ummmm no. Whoever sent that comment (and anyone else who agreed) is being intrusive and entitled. Parenting is scary. Sometimes the news is good, sometimes it’s bad. I was thrilled to read that you got the good news. Anyone who wants to turn loving and worrying about your kids into some kind of competition or hard-knocks olympics needs to take a serious look at themselves and their own choices. Your intention was crystal clear and the choices you made were authentic; you let readers know that there was possible bad news looming and then you followed up when you could to put minds at rest. I think everyone with an ounce of empathy and compassion realized what was up and just hoped for the best for your family. I cannot imagine how twisted you’d have to be to send an e-mail or post a comment griping about how someone *blogged about their baby’s health scare* instead of just being happy for that person when the results were good.
Ultimately, you are entitled to privacy, to vagueness, and to feel relieved that your kid is healthy. Don’t let anyone convince you that blogging means you’ve given up the right to actually be a human being. Can you imagine going anywhere in “real life” and having someone demand that you either tell them EVERYTHING IMMEDIATELY or just say NOTHING AT ALL? If a coworker said they were having a family health scare, would you berate them for not giving you every detail? Of course not. Because that would be–that IS–incredibly rude and shitty.
I have many more far less diplomatic and polite things I’d like to say to that woman (and any like her) but I will respect the overall sunshiney vibe of your space and refrain. I’m so glad to hear your adorable boy is as healthy as he is happy.
i’ve been reading your blog for years and just adore it, you, and your little family. i have to say, i’m astounded and disturbed that anyone would negatively comment on how much you choose to share regarding your beautiful BABY. this is your space and you can write and publish as much or little as you want! i think you’re very genuine and by all means, KEEP DOING YOU. prayers for everything to continue on a healthy path 🙂
ooh, and have the best time in WV! its the best state in the nation…just sayin 😉
I don’t know if you will read this but I totally disagree with the comment shared on your post. Personally, I read your blog for many reasons, one being to read about your personal experiences as you are going through a similar time in your life as I am (I have a one year old). I feel like if you hold back you could be missing out on touching the lives of others. Please don’t be afraid to share your feelings/personal experiences with the majority of us who care about you and want the best for you and your family. Also, so many people said prayed for you and sent well wishes because of that post! Couldn’t have hurt!
I completely understand your decision to only share minimal information. I’m sure you wanted all the prayers possible as well as to explain your mood and concerns so I feel like you handled it correctly. As a mother, my heart sank when I read your posts. I can’t imagine the fear and anxiety you must have felt. So glad for good news!!
Julie, ignore the Snapchat haters and ignore the destructive comments! I am a longtime reader and infrequent commenter, but wanted to say here that you sharing what you were going with was helpful to me. It’s good to know I’m not alone when I feel afraid. I wouldn’t want to read a blog that was always upbeat and positive without being real and raw. Keep doing the amazing thing you are doing and ignore the haters.
Hi Julie,
I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a blog before, but I ready yours faithfully. I read it because it is real and sincere, and authentic. I appreciated that you shared your feelings of fear, because so many of us face different situations everyday, but with that same emotion. I feel it is a privilege to read your blog and learn about your little family. You are allowed to share what you wish, and keep private what you wish. I find it incredibly sad that in the midst of this very scary time for you that someone felt the need to criticize you for HOW you shared on YOUR blog. Keep on loving your family and blogging in the way you see fit!
It made me sad tonight to read that you are having to defend yourself regarding what you shared about Chase. People should just not read if they don’t like what you’re sharing/not sharing, instead of complaining about it.
Thankful to hear that everything is alright this week and I hope you 4 are enjoying a much deserved vacation.
I agree with Jackie! Post whatever you want. There is no right or wrong way and if you get the support you need I am happy for you. It’s your blog after all.
Julie, I’ve been reading your blog for so long that I’m not sure how many years it’s been, but it was before you guys even got engaged. This is one of my most favorite blogs. I love how upbeat you are and the varied topics you share. I feel honored for the information you do share with us and am glad you shared about Chase, allowing all of us to help pray for him. I understand why you might have not wanted to share the details and can only imagine the scare it gave you. No situation is too little when it comes to our kids! I hope though that you don’t let one comment affect what you want to share. I would hate to think you can’t share and thereby receive hope, support and prayers. Please don’t let this change how and what you share.
I agree 100%. I knew by what you told us that you were going through something that had you worried; that you were waiting to hear more results and that it concerned Chase; then that everything was going to be ok — that what was going on was indeed something, but not life threatening. Honestly, that is all I needed to know. I did not think in any way that your “vagueness is allowing readers to form their own opinions that this isn’t that serious” You can’t be responsible for what every other parent is going through! Thanks for being transparent.
Hi Julie!
I know you’ve been getting a lot of support above but I’d like to share mine as well. I am glad you shared the anxiety you were feeling last week. Just like you said, I’d rather you share what is going on in your life in an honest way, even if you don’t want to give all the details. I understand if you choose not to in the future, but I know many of us sent positive thoughts your way over the weekend in support of your family! I feel like the majority of your readers support you and are thankful for what details you do decide to share with us!
Thank you for being you! Enjoy your family time with your healthy boy!